Although many people benefit from eft there appears to be a small minority who continue to struggle even after much eft work. I find such individuals deeply passionate about finding an answer to their problems and a number of them seem to show up at my door.
My conversations with such individuals reveals that their issues are rather complex and involve a long persistent history of negative events that EFT seems unable to shift for them. In reflecting on this matter it has become apparent to me that EFT and modalities like it appear to have one significant weakness that to many might sound bizarre even to contemplate.
That weakness relates to something that will sound strange, even crazy, when you read it.
So here it is:
None of these modalities ever challenges the belief that this negative history ever happened.
In other words it is a well accepted “fact” (which I would suggest is more of an “assumption”) that one’s history of negative life events actually took place. Continuing to hold such a belief has a very significant disempowering effect on any modality that hopes to permanently attenuate the effects of that history.
In order to fully appreciate this let me take you on a short journey.
The belief that a negative life event happened is the opposite of the belief that it did not happen.
Believing that a negative life event “did not happen” when everyone else thinks that it did makes the owner of this belief appear delusional, crazy, insane and or deranged. Hence it follows that the belief that it “did happen” should therefore make one sane, normal, confident, capable, OK, happy, peaceful and so on.
To summarize, one has:
(The Summary Statement)
The belief that a negative life event did happen makes one sane, normal, confident, capable, OK happy and peaceful.
If we take this a bit further however we note that the belief that the negative life event “did happen” implies two significant things:
1. It implies that the memory of that negative life event is still inside you and,
2. As that memory is part of the past it cannot be completely erased hence one is stuck with it.
So in summary the belief “that the negative memory did happen” implies that you are permanently stuck with it (because the past cannot be completely erased).
So how does that make you feel? Well some might say that it’s not a big deal however if you actually look at what that negative memory is doing to you you’ll see that it’s draining your energy, your enthusiasm and motivation, makes you sad, feel hurt, disappointed, depressed, lowers your self confidence, your self esteem, your self worth, makes you feel inadequate and so on.
So does that feel like a life enhancing or a life depleting state?
If you see that it’s life depleting then you’ll also recognize that the negative memory is killing you and therefore toxic to you.
If you do, place one hand over your Heart and as if you are speaking from there, affirm that to yourself.
Now if we go back to the realization that the belief that “the negative memory did happen to you” implies that this toxic memory is still inside you and you’re stuck with it, notice how that makes you feel.
Many realize that this means they are feeling doomed!
Do you like that? Hardly!
That feeling will also contradict the Summary Statement above which suggests that:
The belief that a negative life event did happen makes one sane, normal, confident, capable, OK happy and peaceful.
If you see that this statement is false and wish to have it purged from within simply affirm that to yourself as if speaking from your Heart and you’ll begin to experience a shift that make astound you.
Next, realizing that the belief “that the memory did happen to you” makes you feel doomed I ask you to consider whether you wish to continue to harbour that belief any further. If not, again speaking from the Heart, command it to be purged from your life and again you’ll likely experience another profound shift.
This is an example of a new coaching modality that has the capability to help bring individuals to an entirely new and empowered level of consciousness. You also may surprisingly feel like it feels familiar to you.
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-By: Nick Arrizza, M.D.
Nick Arrizza MD, a former Psychiatrist and Medical Doctor is an International Life, Executive, Organizational Tele-Coach, Author, Keynote Speaker, Trainer and Facilitator. He is also on Faculty at Akamai University in Hawaii. He is the CEO and Founder of Arrizza Performance Coaching Inc. and the developer of the powerful Mind Resonance Process? (MRP).
He is the author of “Esteem For The Self: Restoring the Divine Holographic Energy Field With The Mind Resonance Process(R) (MRP)”
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